While watching an especially cringey episode of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, I realized that there are common phrases used by white women during conflict and the pattern is clear. The phrases listed below and many like them are conversation-crushers and are a tactic to avoid conflict rather than resolve it. The phrases do not need to be replaced and only serve to keep things "nice" and comfortable. You will have much more constructive conversations that lead to growth and progress.
"That's not nice..."
"I didn't mean it like that..."
"I'm upset"
"I want to move forward/ let's move on.."
"Wooooow... really?!"
"You know me, I would never..."
"I don't understand why..."
"I just wanted to/only/simply.."
"If it were me, I would..."
"I'm sorry if..."
"...know what I mean?"
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